Poems on dating violence
He may simply not fit anyone’s image of a cruel or intimidating person.
They have many good qualities, including times of kindness, warmth, and humor, especially in the early period of a relationship. He may have a successful work life and have no problems with drugs or alcohol.No matter how badly he treats you, he believes that your voice shouldn’t rise and your blood shouldn’t boil. When your anger does jump out of you—as will happen to any abused woman from time to time—he is likely to try to jam it back down your throat as quickly as he can.Then he uses your anger against you to prove what an irrational person you are. You may develop physical or emotional reactions to swallowing your anger, such as depression, nightmares, emotional numbing, or eating and sleeping problems, which your partner may use as an excuse to belittle you further or make you feel crazy.” ― “Has he ever trapped you in a room and not let you out?There’s a phrase, “the elephant in the living room,” which purports to describe what it’s like to live with a drug addict, an alcoholic, an abuser.People outside such relationships will sometimes ask,“How could you let such a business go on for so many years? ” And it’s so hard for anyone living in a more normal situation to understand the answer that comes closest to the truth; “I’m sorry, but it was there when I moved in.